Some Pictures of My Son Over the Years

Here are some pictures of my son over the course of years that I thought worth sharing on the occasion of his Sweet 16th Birthday

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I believe this was the first picture of my son and me together, from the day that he was born, I believe! It is my favorite baby picture of my son, then only a baby, and I'm reposting this, and a bunch of others, for this, his 11th birthday. Simply amazing how quickly the time flies, and even more incredible to think about just how much a new life can grow and change your life forever, and for the better. He was a miracle, and his presence in my life has added such meaning, such focus, and such a sense of gratitude, that words hardly do it justice. But for now, I am just happy to have shared so many great memories with him, including on this day, his 11th birthday!

My favorite baby picture of him! Ridgewood, NJ - 2005.

A couple of pictures from a few years ago, when I took my son to see the Jets versus the Raiders.



Posing, making an angry face. Don't exactly remember when this was taken.

 

My son's class picture for academic year 2013-14.

My son's class picture for 2014-2015.

My son enjoying his time at Camp Yawpaw:

My son and I at the Grand Canyon in 2015:

Below is an older post from an earlier birthday for my son, with some pictures as well:

My son's class picture for this academic year.

One little side note for this particular day.

You see, on top of everything else, today is my son's birthday.

I had heard all of my life about the "miracle of life". And eight years ago on this day, I was not only witness to the birth of new life, but also, that new life was from me! My own flesh and blood, a new generation for my family was created right there!

It was a miracle, on so many levels.

Funny thing - it took me quite a while to believe it. The reality of it, and the enormous implications associated with having a child, eluded me for quite a while. All throughout the pregnancy, and even maybe a couple of days after he was born, for that matter. The first two or three days, he had to remain in the hospital, and so I had to drive to the hospital to see him. It all seemed a bit distant still, and hard to grasp.

But that changed. I cannot say when, precisely. I remember the first time we took him out of the hospital, and hooked him up to the baby seat in the car. He fell asleep very quickly, of course. Nothing seems to systematically get babies to sleep like car rides. Not sure when it happened, but maybe within a week or two after he came home with us, I realized that it was hard to even remember what life had been like before he was born. I know that must sound...well, I don't know what it sounds like. But it was true. It was hard to imagine what life had even been like before he was born, even though he himself was only a couple of weeks old or so by then. It's just one of those things, you know?

And through a span of eight years - not always easy times, of course, - I still feel very thankful for his presence in my life, and for my roll as a father. He means the world to me, and I make sure to remind him of that every time that I see him. The one thing that I never want to make him feel like is unwelcome, or unappreciated, because his presence measures beyond any poor attempts at words here for me to express!

He just keeps on getting bigger, and somehow, predictably, I grow sadder watching him outgrow things. When he stops playing with some of the toys for very young children, or stops watching shows for the very young children, or says that he's "too old" or "too big" for certain things.

Yet, that too is only part of the story. I take joy in watching him grow older, in growing smarter and more world savvy. Plus, he is still just a kid, with plenty of time yet (for now) before he gets a taste of what adult life really is like. He is fixated on being bigger, on growing older, and closer to adulthood, and all of the respect and freedom that he associates with it.

Of course, that is the way that kids see adulthood. Once you reach it, you realize that it is a lot more than that. The privileges that come with that extra responsibility wear out fast, and the pitfalls begin to dominate after a certain amount of time. When you begin to understand that what most people value you for is the money and/or services, as well as other benefits, that you can provide, then any romanticized notion of "adulthood" goes out the window, and it is too often replaced with stress, fatigue, and acceptance of a far less glamorous and idyllic aspect of real adulthood.

Still, growing up, and growing older, is inevitable, and as a parent, it is your duty to prepare that child, and any children, really, for adulthood. It is not always a pleasant aspect, and often requires the heavy hand of discipline. A part of that, increasingly a lost art among adults who want to indulge children and "buy" their acceptance, is simply to say "no" every once in a while.

This I try to do, but not cruelly. I discipline my son, but try always to remain within reason in so doing, and never do I take pleasure or derive some false sense of power when doing that.

But life is tough, and preparing a young person for such a life takes a lot of doing. Any parent would say the same thing, I think.

Yet, it is important to remember the more fun aspects of growing up. And my son is, after all, still a child. Growing up, getting bigger, absolutely. But still just a child, with a child's enthusiasm for a birthday, for growing older, getting bigger, etc. He was very excited, and justifiably so, to have a birthday party, and to get really cool presents, and all of that. And as a child, that is for him to enjoy right now. The responsibilities and sober approach are there, but they can wait a little while, at least for this day. Because today is his birthday, and he should be able to be a kid, and do what kids do better than anyone else: just have fun!!

He chose Chuck E. Cheese to have a party at for last evening, and it seemed like a good and appropriate idea to share those pictures here: