Saturday, April 30, 2022

Steve Carell: Between Two Ferns with Zach Galifianakis



For a while a few years ago, I was watching Between Two Ferns regularly, and getting some laughs from it. Most of them had their funny moments, and some had quite a few. But just a couple of them or so really were hilarious, and made me almost tear up with laughter.

This was one of them. Steve Carell is just awesome as a comedian when at his best, and he feels at his best here in this appearance. It is very funny, how he and Galifianakis go back and forth. Carell goes on the offensive at the outset, then pulls back when it seems like he has hurt the host. But then he himself gets attacked, and goes right back on the attack. The one-liners between the two are very funny.

So since it is a beautiful weekend, and I wanted to keep it more or less light today, this seemed like a good thing to post today, this last day of April. 

Enjoy!





Honoring John Muir More Than One Week After His Birthday



April 21st this year marked the 184th anniversary of the birth of John Muir. Muir was a noted conservationist, and truly a pioneer for environmentalism in the United States, and indeed the world. His poetic descriptions of wilderness captivated the imagination, while his outright activism helped to establish the National Parks system of the United States, the first of it's kind. 

Muir followed in the footsteps of Henry David Thoreau in championing a new appreciation of the wilderness, of nature, and like Thoreau, he recognized that we human beings were enjoying a little too much success in our question to conquer it. 

So today, it seemed appropriate to honor his legacy, and the greater appreciation for conservation and preservation of our unspoiled open spaces. We here in the United States have been truly blessed with some tremendous natural beauty. It has clearly been a struggle to try and preserve this beauty and serenity fully. Look at how our national parks were opened to drilling and other commercial interests in recent years. The struggle goes on.

We certainly could do worse than turn to the wisdom of one of our most profound and forward thinking writers and activists, a man who was many decades ahead of his time: John Muir.

Here are some of my personal favorite quotes from Muir:


"The battle we have fought, and are still fighting for our forests is a part of the eternal conflict of right and wrong."

― John Muir


“Earth has no sorrow that earth can not heal.” 

― John Muir


“How glorious a greeting the sun gives the mountains!” 

– John Muir


“In every walk with nature one receives far more than he seeks.” 

– John Muir


“The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest wilderness.”

― John Muir


“When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe.” 

– John Muir




 

 


Friday, April 29, 2022

The Corner of Bordeaux & St. Charles in New Orleans

Recently, a friend (a former high school classmate) reached out to me after he had come back from a trip to New Orleans.

He sent me this picture, which combines my first and last name. It is the corner of Charles (well, St. Charles) and Bordeaux. My last name does not have the x, but otherwise, this was pretty close.

For no particular reason, it seemed like something worth sharing. So here it is.






Corner of

Economist Robert Reich Posts An Accurate Cartoon




Economist Robert Reich posted a cartoon yesterday by Nick Anderson on his Facebook page, and it felt accurate.

So, it seemed like a good idea to share it here.






https://www.facebook.com/RBReich/posts/533571658136286

Thursday, April 28, 2022

Book Review: The Reader by Bernhard Schlink



As perhaps regular readers here will notice, I am trying to get back to reviewing books that I recently read. For some reason, I went a surprisingly long time without doing any real book reviews, or at least not many that I can remember. It felt like I was backed up and had too many to try and catch up. Even worse, I realized that my memory for some was not quite as strong as it should have been, requiring me to revisit some of these books.

So in an attempt to remedy this, there are some more recent posts with reviews of books that I have just finished reading. One of them was an audiobook by Teresa Meteo, which I very much enjoyed. 

Here is another one. This is a more conventional one, because it is printed in black and white, an actual, physical book. 

As I approached the midway point of this book, it was hard not to notice that this story somehow felt familiar. Then I remembered that, at some point, I must have watched the movie version.

While I had indeed seen the movie before, it had been a long time. Like maybe over ten years, even. Could be wrong, but if memory serves correctly, I may even have seen it in a movie theater back when it was still playing. So I was only dimly aware of what happened, and what was going on.              

Now, before I get into more specifics, as usual, I will warn about spoilers. Just like with movies, if you are unfamiliar with this book but intend to read it in the future, and do not want any spoilers, you should stop reading now.   

           

SPOILERS AHEAD              


Okay, so this is your last shot. If you are still reading now, I have to imagine that you either have read this book before, or that you do not mind spoilers, because there will be spoilers from here on out. Don’t say that you weren’t warned.              

Here goes:              

This was a good book. It is a short read, and you can probably get through it in a day or two, if you want to. Possibly, you may even be able to read it in one sitting, although that would take a number of hours. Generally speaking, I do not read that fast, nor do I even really like to read that fast. Maybe it’s just me, but there is something to sitting and relaxing and reading at a slower pace, and not allowing something as personal and pleasurable as reading to be yet another thing that we try and rush through.              

In any case, despite being a short book, there are a lot of themes and issues being juggled here. That is a sign of a good book or story, especially when it is short like this. But we get a coming of age romance story between an awkward teenage kid and a mysterious older woman. We get a trial, and then a rather astonishing revelation, which dawns slowly but surely on the author, that the reason that this woman wanted to be read to all of the time was that she herself could not read. The trial itself, and the thoughts of the author, examine the relationship with the past crimes of the Holocaust which for the very next generation of Germans, who had mixed emotions and some hypocrisy when wanting to both to reveal the crimes of the past, while also understanding that those guilty still were very much among them, and very much part of the West German state in which they lived.  

As for the author himself, he of course has fallen in love with Hanna, the mysterious woman. And while he realized only much later that she has been illiterate all of this time, this happens only when her pride simply cannot permit admitting to the entire world that she does not know how to read. Ultimately, she is forced to basically take the brunt of responsibility for a war crime that happened right at the end of the war. While she was hardly in a high ranking position or command, the court effectively makes her the convenient scapegoat, and she is punished especially harshly, while the other defendants basically get away with their role in this crime.  

The author feels something is incomplete regarding Hanna. He feels that he has betrayed her in some essential manner. Now that she is behind bars in prison, he decides to try and help her, even after years have passed. So he begins to record his own voice reading books, and sends her a cassette tape player and regularly sends her cassettes of written works. Later, we find that she has used these tapes in large part to teach herself how to read. There is clear admiration for how difficult it must have been for her, and how brave she was to make that happen at her age. We see that Hanna was really trying to improve herself.  

We then examine the question of what Germans guilty of crimes against Jews can do. Hanna immediately acquired as many books about the Holocaust and the camps (she herself worked at Auschwitz) as possible, trying to educate herself, to understand what she herself participated in. How much of all of this she understood at the time when she participated in it is not entirely clear, but she does at least seem to be trying to understand it and, ultimately, trying not only to come to terms with it, but to make up for it to the degree possible.

But can anything make up for it? The people – particularly the Jews – who had their lives completely turned upside down during this time, are they obliged to find the heart to forgive the perpetrators, the people who made their lives a living hell? It does not happen in this book, where one Jew who survived the very horrors that Hanna was a part of.  

So this is a great book that makes the reader think about important questions. Plus, it does so with an accessible approach and an entertaining story to boot. There are interesting, compelling characters faced with situations where they are uncertain about how to react, and their decisions force yet still more uncertain situations that they have to make decisions for.  

Ultimately, it is, after all is stripped down, a love story. But an unconventional love story. True, this one takes place in Europe, as many romances do. Yet, this is not a romantic story of some dreamy characters who have a hot romance in some beautiful city like Paris or Rome or Venice, or some charming hamlet in rural Britain, where a happy ending seems like a foregone conclusion. This book is not romantic fluff. Everything here feels grim and gray and all too real, and the characters flawed, often exacerbating their own problems in their fixation on temporary escapes, and these in turn impact other people.  

This leads to another question that the author poses: are we not responsible for the people we fall in love with. An interesting question, and one that he does feel confident answering. Yes, he says, we are responsible for who we choose to fall in love with. Of course, he had not known at the time that Hanna, the object of his affections, had been involved in such horrendous crimes. How could he know? After all, she has kept this a very rigid secret for a very long time. And as it turns out, her entire involvement in these crimes, the author eventually works out, were a quite direct result of her going to extraordinary lengths to keep the other, arguably even bigger, secret: that she is illiterate.

That does not fully exonerate the author, either, though. He actually keeps his relationship with Hanna a secret, both as it happens, and then after the fact. And as the book goes on, he goes to more and more extraordinary lengths himself to keep this whole relationship a secret, right to the end. He has carried around a sense of guilt about Hanna, feeling that he has wronged her in some key, fundamental way, even though he cannot quite put a finger on how specifically he did this. At times, he pushes these thoughts away, especially when he blames Hanna for his own wounds of lost intimacy and love. However, this guilt keeps coming back, like a bad penny. And the two lovers also seem unable to completely remove one another from each other's lives. They keep turning up, finding one another. 

Indeed, both of the two main characters go to extraordinary lengths to keep their secrets. In fact, it is the driving force of the book. The author finds Hanna very attractively mysterious at first. Slowly but surely, however, he begins to uncover Hanna's most closely guarded secret, in large part due to the revelations of another secretive aspect of her past life that she, rather surprisingly, is now only too open and frank about: her role in the crimes during the Holocaust. Meanwhile, he has to deal with the consequences of his own secrets, which impact Hanna a great deal. His knowledge of her illiteracy could possibly alter the court's understanding of her role in the crime and possible - even likely - save her from being the scapegoat, the single person held responsible for what are, in fact, the actions of a number of people. It is his understanding that grows as to the lengths that she goes to even in court, even when on trial for her life, to keep this a secret, because she feels far more shame in never having learned to read than in what she actually participated in during the war.

The final irony in this book is that both Hanna and the author alter their perceptions of all of this, of everything, right at the end. Hanna, through sheer determination and hard work, finally learns to read and write while in jail. She has to reveal her shameful secret first to the warden, but this proves instrumental, ultimately, in her learning to read and write. And as it turns out, exorcising this particular demon allows her - perhaps forces her is a better way of putting it - to more fully understand and confront her role in the other big secret in her life, which is no longer a secret, but which is still nevertheless misunderstood. The outside world now views Hanna as a monster, even though she is apparently well-liked within the prison itself.  This is due to her being the convenient scapegoat, so that no closer, more substantive examination of the wider questions of guilt among many, many more people, including the other female guards, as well as the villagers, who could conceivably have helped save the prisoners. Instead of truly scrutinizing the role of all of these people (and symbolically, of Germans as a whole), it is easier to blame one person, and that one person is Hanna. Yet paradoxically, while Hanna did not play the leading role that she is now officially condemned for, she confronts her own guilt while in prison. We learn that the very first books that she obtained once she knew how to read all had to do with concentration camps and the Holocaust. Too late, she finally wrestles these demons, and tries to do something to right a wrong that cannot be righted. Everything that she does, in the end, feels woefully inadequate. Still, it feels like the author feels that there is something to be admired in her efforts. 

Meanwhile, the author himself has not been able to confront his own secrets as starkly and nakedly as Hanna, the object of his affection has. He maybe could have saved her, and given the court, and indeed the world, a better understanding of Hanna, and why she seemed so willing to take the brunt of the guilt. Yet he did not do so, and is haunted by this. But he does begin to send her the cassette tapes of his reading of books. As it turns out, he is the only person who really even tries to reach her. Her life has become largely friendless, even while she maintains a rather rigid dignity through it all. But as she learns to read and exorcises her biggest demon, ironically, she loosens her own incredible self-discipline. We learn that, in the end, she  no longer takes care of herself, keeping a trim figure and bathing religiously. This pains the author, who in the end, has to admit that despite his best efforts to distance himself from Hanna, she is in fact the love of his life. Regardless of her role in the Holocaust, and how she was not who he thought she was during their time together, he has loved her through all of these years. His writing of this book is, in some sense, both a tribute to her, as well as a personal confession of sorts. It is his attempt to follow in Hanna's footsteps and finally exorcise his own demon, his own guilt, even if it is more distant and nuanced than Hanna's. 

Hanna seems to symbolize the old Germany of the Nazi era, including the guilt of war crimes. She is extremely well-disciplined, to a fault, really. And she remains inaccessible to the outside world. Yet the author, who symbolizes the "new Germany," if you will, loves her. There are all sorts of paradoxes in this, since he fluctuates between wanting to expose her - at several different points in the story, and also in very different ways - all while ironically hiding his own complicity, his love for her, which he himself seems to try and almost keep this a  secret from himself.

An excellent book, and highly recommended!

Saying a Final Goodbye to the House in West Milford




Back in mid-February, I posted a blog entry about how I had been working clearing the old family house in West Milford. It was hard and tedious work, physically and mentally exhausting. 

Well on Monday, the official closing on the house was completed. Now, the house no longer belongs to the family at all. The last two members of our family to set foot in that house were my son and I on Monday, which was three days ago as I write this. 

We got as much of any real value out of the old house as we realistically could. Even then, there are a few things here and there that I regret not having managed to take, particularly a very large aerial map of Paris. It was called the "Plan de Paris à vol d'oiseau" by Georges Peltier, and is truly remarkable, showing all of the buildings and roads in the city of Paris from many decades ago, although most of those from the vantage point in the map had hardly changed since then. My father had gotten two of these maps, either sometime in the late 80's or early 90's.  He actually had gotten two big versions of them, although the smaller one (which was pretty big nonetheless) had been missing for a long time. The larger one was in the entryway to the basement, and was truly enormous. It was nailed in and high up, and would have been difficult to take down. And I would not know how to transport it from there to someplace else. Finally, the map (which was on some kind of board backing, if I recall correctly) would likely have been too big for anywhere that I could think to keep it. Still, I decided that maybe I should try and save it, but I just ran out of time. For the most part, I had not gone in that entryway and had forgotten about it until I went inside of the stairway and saw it for the first time really in years. It is perhaps the biggest regret that I have from the work in the house, not being able to save it. 

Here is what it looked like:



Unfortunately, I was not able to save this very large map, the dimensions of which were truly enormous, and would have covered a whole section of a typical living room in an American house. However, again, there were plenty of things that we did manage to get, including some old family photographs that my ex-wife happened to find (and which apparently eluded me for a very long time). These pictures I will try and post in an upcoming blog entry in the near future.

Right now, we are just beginning to sort through all of the stuff that we got in those final days. And now, we are also adapting to the idea that the house is indeed finally gone. I drove by there earlier this morning, and was truly shocked at how much work they had already done on it, and that it already was beginning to look a lot different. If it were necessary to drive home the point that this is no longer our house, that certainly did it.

There are some bittersweet feelings that go with this. We lived there for a long time, and it has been with the family now for just shy of 40 years (the anniversary would have actually been this coming summer). I was in the third grade when we moved there, and my brother was in fifth grade. We both went through the West Milford school system right through high school graduation, and both lived there through college graduation. My parents still lived there for many years yet, and so it was still very much in our lives, even through the birth of my son, who got to visit the house and - briefly - even lived there himself with his mom.

Of course, there are some good memories, but there are also some bad and/or sad memories, as well. Mostly, it saddened me to see how much the place began to fall apart. Even while clearing the place, there was a mixture of good and bad. I kept running into some things cool things that I was looking for, some things that I had believed long gone or lost. Among those were some pictures, many of which came as a very pleasant surprise, and I will be publishing those in the coming days and weeks.

So I thought it might be good to start the process off by showing pictures of the house itself, in better days. These pictures were taken most likely somewhere either in the late eighties or early nineties, and obviously just after a major snowfall blanketed the property and the town. It is more the way I would want to remember the house then in it's present condition. 

Here are the pictures. Enjoy!













Here are the two most recent (and last) pictures of the house that I took, which were taken in February.
 





I decided to add these pictures below, which are of Candy, my unofficial dog (I never had a dog as a kid growing up). She really loved me and paid me a visit anytime that she could. Each of these three pictures was taken on or near the property in West Milford, and so it seemed like a good idea to include these as well:







Wednesday, April 27, 2022

Could the Raptors Be a Serious Force in the 2022 NBA Playoffs & Beyond?

 



2019 NBA Champions

Toronto Raptors



🏀 🏀 🏀 🏀 


This was a post that I meant to publish sooner. But I then almost dropped it, given how poorly they were doing early in the series.

Then, they came storming back. Now, the Toronto Raptors have fought back and forced a Game 5, which they will host. If they manage to win - still a big if, of course - then they will have forced a deciding Game 7, which will be hosted by the 76ers in Philadelphia.

So in other words, they obviously have their work cut out for them. It certainly is not an automatic to assume that they can win this series. That said, it also is not as unthinkable as when the Sixers raced out to a 3-0 series lead.

Nevertheless, there is some optimism building around this team. They appear to be getting better. And remember, just a few short seasons ago, they have some real experience under their collective belt, having defeated the largely depleted Warriors to win the first ever NBA title in 2019. It was the first - and so far, only - time that a team outside of the United States won the NBA crown.

Indeed, there is reason to be optimistic. They have fought and made a series of what once appeared to be a bad mismatch, and given themselves a shot. And it also appears that they might build towards something special down the road. 

But before all of that, let's see if they can win Game 6 and really make Philadelphia sweat in this series. Hopefully, they can do it, and maybe make history. Let's see what happens. 





The true reason why Pascal Siakam, Raptors could be unstoppable in the 2022 NBA playoffs (and beyond) by Gerard Samillano, April 15, 2022

https://clutchpoints.com/the-true-reason-why-pascal-siakam-raptors-could-be-unstoppable-in-the-2022-nba-playoffs-and-beyond/?fbclid=IwAR0OOrAt2QsttZPeJEqtiEpvkIT4Q4MC5Y2U15sqZkI_FgtklgT1axWrgkY

Yesterday Marked the 36th Anniversary of the Chernobyl Nuclear Disaster

Some memories just stick with you, regardless of how long ago or far away they happened. 

In the 1980's, one of the undeniably biggest news stories occurred with the fire at the Chernobyl nuclear plant in what was then the Soviet Union. It now lies officially in Ukrainian territory, although it exchanged hands a couple of times during the recent war.

This was a memorable event that happened while I was still in the 6th grade, as I recall, on the verge of heading to Macopin Middle School for 7th grade later that same year. Ronald Reagan was the American president, and Mikhael Gorbachev was the Soviet Premier. 

Since then, I have heard some theories that, in fact, this disaster was more or less what unraveled the Soviet Union, making what would happen within a few years possible. Not entirely sure on my end, although I think there may indeed be something to that, although I think it was a number of things combined. Still, this one felt a bit like one of the major cracks that showed the vulnerability and mistakes, when what the Soviet Union was clearly going to great lengths to keep this whole thing a secret. But it obviously came out soon enough, when the air quality in nearby countries suddenly plunged. Before long, the Soviet Union was basically forced to admit this accident had taken place.

Also, everything that they did initially actually made matters worse. That includes the secrecy, and the pouring of water atop the fire in order to try and cool it. That water seeped underground and threatened to not only affect the drinking water, but actually possibly to go to make much of the entire European continent uninhabitable. 

For anyone who has not yet seen it, I would highly recommend watching the Chernobyl miniseries, which shows how almost everything that everyone in authority at the time did only made matters worse, every step of the way. They literally wound up flirting with this being arguably the biggest tragedy in world history. And it remains one of the biggest and most haunting events in world history.

It happened on this day yesterday, 36 years ago. 

Tuesday, April 26, 2022

Bill Maher Has Some Talking Points on the War on Democracy in the United States



On a few occasions here, I have shared some video clips and/or recent thoughts by comedian Bill Maher. Maher, of course, has his own show, Real Time. I actually preferred his older show, Politically Incorrect, which ran from sometime in the early to mid-nineties until just after September 11th, when Maher made some controversial comments that effectively took him off the air. He landed on his feet, though, getting this newer show. Politically Incorrect, if memory serves correctly, aired nightly, and featured celebrities and political pundits and other notable personalities, if you will. The new show airs once a week. It is a similar format to the original show, although it has a much more formal, modern feel to it. Politically Incorrect, by contrast, felt almost like a living room discussion, although it was televised in front of a live audience that sometimes reacted wildly. The new show also is in front of a television audience, but again, it looks and feels more like a conventional, modern talk show. 

While I do not agree with everything that comedian Bill Maher says, in this short video clip about the modern day Republican party and the seeming disdain with which they hold American democracy, he seems right on the money. Indeed, the GOP in particular has been growing ever more hostile to democracy and free elections for a long while now. 

Now I will admit to being one of those people who struggled more and more over the years to see any real difference between the two major parties. I never considered myself a Republican, and can honestly claim never to have voted for a single one on any level, either on a national, state, or local level. There was a time when I considered myself a Democrat, but to put a long story short, Bill Clinton cured me of that. By the end of his administration, I was tired of both major parties, and championed a third option. At least a third option, if not many more.

Still, the reality in this country is that politics is and has long been dominated by these two major parties. And yes, while I personally dislike both of them, the Republicans seem particularly repugnant to me. The Democrats are a very flawed and, frankly, depressing party of out of touch elitists, but at least they largely still seem to abide by some limits, at least when it comes to the general election. That said, their own presidential primaries to establish who the official party nominee will be seems to actually not be all that democratic, and reflects the party's elitist, pro-corporate tendencies. 

By contrast, Republicans seem more and more willing to actively flirt with an end to our American democracy. Maher cited some specific examples, which I will share with you here in print, although I would welcome anyone to watch the show video clip above.

Here is something that Utah Senator Mike Lee infamously said in 2020:

“We're not a democracy. Democracy isn’t the objective; liberty, peace, and prosperity [sic] are. We want the human condition to flourish. Rank democracy can thwart that.”

That sure seems to be an outright questioning of our democratic principles.

Rachel Hamm, yet another Republican critic of democracy, seems to want to attack the idea of the right to vote. 

"I want to make it hard (to vote). I want it to be a privilege to vote."

Here's the thing: she does not get to say. It does not matter what Rachel Hamm "wants." After all, it is the RIGHT TO VOTE. It is not some minor flaw in our democratic system, but rather, is fundamental. And it is protected by the Constitution, for that matter. 

Maher pointed to yet another Republican who can apparently be added to the growing list of Republicans who sure do not seem very friendly to the concept of democracy. Loren Culp said that democracy amounts to "mob rule."

He apparently sees no irony in supporting Trump, a man who infamously tried to get a mob to rule in what amounted to an attempted coup. That kind of mob rule - a literal mob rule, in other words, is not a problem for him. 

But democracy? 

Evidently it's too dangerous.

Of course, he is both a supporter of, and endorsed by, Donald Trump. And Trump s notoriously questionable when it comes to his commitment to American democracy. He swore to uphold the Constitution of the United States when sworn into office. Then, in quite typical fashion, he seemed to do almost everything that he could to undermine it. He did it in what can also be described as his trademark fashion, often claiming to be joking when, in fact, it felt more like he was testing the waters to gauge how people would react to it. His commitment to American democracy, and to his own promise to be a president "for all Americans," seemed questionable at best a number of times, from seemingly refusing to condemn Nazis and calling some of them good people, championing the idea of a national registry of all Muslims within American borders and a ban on all Muslims immigrating to the country, calling Mexicans murders and rapists, posting a short video clip of one of his supporters shouting "White Power!" just months before the 2020 election He also "joked" about how great the idea of a "president for life" would be and suggested that we should look into that here i the United States. He then repeatedly hinted at the possibility that he would not only get a second term but a third term and beyond, suggesting that his supporters might demand that he get a third term. Of course, he did not win a majority in the first election, and lost decisively in both the popular vote and the Electoral College race in 2020. Yet, he still felt like he should serve, and so he concocted lies about some massive voter fraud, and did everything that he could to undermine the democracy that he once promised to protect and defend when he first officially became president.  

Of course, Trump's commitment to the idea, let alone the reality, of democracy has long been suspect. This was alarming when he was running for the White House, but it as now become very alarming since he won the White House and the Republican party then seemed to become the de facto Trump party. If Republicans in particular seemed to be more critical of democracy in a more subtle fashion before Trump, they now seem to be testing the waters on the idea of suspending our democracy in a similar fashion to their leader, King Con Don. And it sure feels like since the rise of Trump in  particular, our democracy is more in peril than it ever was before. 

10th Anniversary Celebration


Not long ago, my girlfriend and I celebrated our 10-year anniversary together as a couple.

First, we started off the morning in pleasant fashion. We used to have Saturdays off together, and made a tradition of beginning our mornings off with real coffee from a French Press, and some pancakes. She would make the pancakes, while I would prepare the coffee. Then, we would decide what we would do together for the day. As we enjoyed our breakfast on this sunny Friday morning, we talked about our options for this day, and how we might celebrate such a momentous anniversary marker.

Well, we decided to go to the same restaurant where we first met on that first date, all of those years ago. A decade ago now!

It was the Tiger's Tale, in Montgomery, New Jersey. It is very close with the border of Princeton, from which it gets the inspiration for the name. The tiger is, of course, the official mascot of the prestigious Princeton University. 

Back on that first date 10 years ago, we met there for the first time. She was standing outside waiting for me, but I could not be sure that it was her. I called out her name, asking basically if that was who she was. And she answered no.

That was surprising, and embarrassing. So after apologizing, I started heading into the restaurant to meet her. That was when she began laughing and called me back, saying that yes, it was her.

We had a good first date. We ate at this place, then decided to take in a movie. It was American Pie: Reunion, I believe. 

After that, we had a couple of drinks at Old Man Rafferty's, a bar in town, close to where she lived. 

Initially, my impression was that the date had not gone especially well. She did not respond to my humor, although that could have been because English was not her primary language. 

So when I took the nearly hour long drive back home, it was in disappointment. My guess at the time was that this had not gone very well, and that it would be a one-time date. Yes, I was discouraged, and wondering if I would meet somebody soon.

A few days later, she texted me, and I responded. We agreed to a second date. And this was almost like a replay of the first date. 

Once again, I took the long drive back feeling discouraged. Yet, she reached out to me a few days later once again, and we agreed to a third date.

It was on the third date that it became obvious that there might be something there, more substantial than merely a single date or two.

Before long, we were in a relationship, and then a committed relationship. Not too much later, we moved in together. We have been together ever since. 

Well, it has now been 10 years. A long time together. And we decided to celebrate when we had a rare mutual day off that we planned together. 

So we went back to the Tiger's Tale, which was not quite as good as the other times that we had gone there, admittedly. In fact, she was not in the mood for anything that was offered on the menu. And when she finally did order, it was mostly not to her liking. She ordered ribs, but did not like the fries (they were steak fries, and she had wanted the more common, thin fries) and she also did not like the baked beans. I had a Cajun Burger, but it was admittedly, surprisingly flat of real taste. Again, not sure if it happened to be just that day or what, but we just did not enjoy our experience there as much as either of us had hoped. 

After that, we went to Peddler's Village in New Hope, Pennsylvania, one of the spots that we seem to frequent at least a few times per year, usually. It is a kind of shopping mall, only it is more outdoors than indoors. It is a bunch of small shops, mostly mom and pop specialty stores. Also, it is done in an Old World style, and has beautiful gardens and grounds. 

Some of the grounds feel like a mixture of Europe and Colonial America. There were tulips standing proud and exploding with color in the surprisingly strong and bright spring sunshine. Lower down, there is a pond that actually reminds me of the grounds of Gasho of Japan in Goshen, New York, a once wonderful Japanese restaurant in a building that used to actually stand in the Land of the Rising Sun, and with formal Japanese gardens just outside of the restaurant itself. It felt like a bigger experience as a result, like you were actually getting a real taste of something authentically Japanese. Not just a meal for maybe an hour, but an experience for a part of the day. That place went belly up years ago now, but this pleasant little pond, complete with those big fish, enhances that experience. 

It is pleasant to go to even when you end up not actually buying much of anything. We got some candy from the German store, which has some cool European stuff not generally available in more typical American stores. And we also got a drink, and almost got some novelty, home-made, flavored popcorn, although she decided at the last minute that she did not actually want any.

Probably not the most exciting night out by most people's standards. But we are both quiet people. Most of our time out is done in some quiet way. On occasion, we may go to a concert or something a bit more flashy or loud. By and large, though, when we go out, we prefer quieter places, where we can hear each other and engage in conversations, like we did on this day.

It was amazing to both of us that it has actually been fully 10 years now. Again, that is a long time together, and it just does not quite feel like it could have been that long. But when you look at the calendar, there is no arguing it. 

We had our mostly quiet celebration, which was mostly a rare, mutual day off together. In the early evening, we went back home, both of us needing an early night, since we both had to be at work early the next morning.

However, here are some of the pictures taken from that day. It happened this past Friday, the 22nd. Earth Day. A great day to enjoy the pleasant (almost perfect) daytime temperatures of spring in the region. Warm days and pleasantly cool, even borderline cold, nights. Along with the autumn, when days are similarly warm to moderate, and nights are similarly cool to chilly (even cold sometimes), it is my favorite time of the year. A nice, quiet celebration of a decade together during the season of life. 






"The Tiger's Tale" in Montgomery, NJ



















Peddler's Village in New Hope, Bucks County, Pennsylvania